Hi, I’m Rob. Welcome to the site. I believe there is a magic to life and I value science. I trust a theologian who acknowledges the beauty of science, and I respect a scientist who believes in the might and mystery of faith. Here we use the power of both science and faith.
DO NOT WAIT UNTIL YOU FEEL LIKE IT
To create on command, we need to take command. I do not mean wave a magic wand. I mean do not wait until the world says you’re ready. Show them you’re ready. If you are not ready, do it anyway. Do not wait for the perfect moment or motivation.
EMBRACE BEING UNCOMFORTABLE
Take command. Our minds are not wired to do things that are not comfortable so if you wait till you feel perfectly ready to do something, it will never come and you will never do it. Our brain evolved to keep us motivated to be comfortable in order to survive. Thus we are motivated to do the easy things.
MOTIVATION may be OVERRATED SO LEARN TO ACT ON INSPIRATION
Our minds are wired to stop you from hurting yourself and thus we all have a natural urge to hesitate. Hesitation sends a signal to your brain that there must be a problem. Silence and hesitation are decisions. You are one decision away from a better life, marriage, et cetera. Don’t wait for motivation – overrated. You’ll never be comfortable doing something challenging. There are ways to get motivated if you wish to spend time on that. Or, you can act on your inspiration ASAP. When you get the idea, act on it. Make the decision to do something you know will better your life rather than succumb to silence and hesitation. When you get that sudden insight to speak up or take action, just do it. Make taking action and sticking to decisions a habit. FEAR: false evidence appearing real. Change your decisions and you will change your life.
LIFE HAPPENS FOR YOU
Give yourself permission to fail. You might surprise yourself. Fall down seven times, get up eight. A mistake never stays a failure if you learn from it and grow. Keep striving. Without commitment, you will never start. Without out consistency, you will never progress. If it were easy, everyone would be Tom Brady, Marie Curie, Elon Musk, or Lucille Ball. Ease is a greater threat to progress than hardship. Some of the worst people or events in your life made you better. And life can always make you better when you accept the truth that life doesn’t happen to you. Life happens for you! Accept that and the suffering diminishes. Be present in any challenging situation. How can you get better from the experience? Step out of the victim mentality. The growth of your soul is at stake. Don’t drain you energy fretting. The best things in life are often on the other side of fear.
“No man is an island.” Get the right components into your life; the right people and you will feel invincible. So, what are you going to do?
SET YOUR INTENTION AND DROP THE NEGATIVITY
Creating is progressing towards something. The magic starts by properly setting your intention. Begin to blot out, one by one, all false beliefs, all idea that man is limited or poor or miserable. Use that wonderful power of will that God has given to you. Refuse to think of failure or to doubt your own power. See only what you wish to experience, and look at nothing else. No matter how many times the old thought returns, destroy it by knowing that it has no power over you. When we hide from our story, our past defines us. When we take responsibility for our lives and everything in it, we can write the desired ending to our stories. We are creating all the time through our thoughts and actions. We have that gold mine between our ears. We were born to create. Therefore we need to be mindful of what we think and do so that we can progress towards the things that we want as opposed to those we do not. If our thoughts are right, the right actions will follow.
On a practical note, Creating on command is to think deliberately and act with a purpose. When we develop the right habits, willpower is less of an obstacle and when we use a system-based-focus, delaying gratification is easier than in a goal centered approach. And, finally, when we habitually use the law of attraction processes, inspiration and a positive attitude are necessarily prevalent. When you manage your thoughts and feelings, your predominant point of attraction is pulling in that which you desire and not something unwanted. When we find ourselves in a thought and action tailspin, we need to get back on track. We need to take command of what we create. To create on command, we need to keep our thoughts, feelings, and actions conducive to progress in the right direction.
Celebrate Each Step Forward
You need to experience a sense of victory and success to move forward. When you’re inspired by such feelings, you will gradually begin to increase the amount of time you spend doing the task which you have set yourself.
From an evidence-based perspective, studies indicate willpower, or ‘grit,’ as some call it, is the greatest predictor of success. In other words, a high ability to persist is more important than talent. Our natural compulsion to seek immediate satisfaction of needs, wants, and urges. Therefore, a lack of willpower is the most major obstacle to success. In this context, willpower is the capacity to delay gratification for long-term success and a goal focused approach means gratification is not experienced until the goal is achieved. But is there a way to exploit our evolutionary tendencies for immediate gratification and, still, do the things and deny the things we must in order to achieve our goal. Yes, a system based approach puts more focus on the completion of daily activities and encourages daily gratification which alleviates the need for strict willpower. Choose the right daily and weekly activities that make progression towards your goal inevitable. Celebrate every small win and that can include merely completing the daily tasks you planned for yourself.
The right activities make progression inevitable.
When the activities become habitual, and daily gratification is experienced, the need for willpower is greatly reduced, and thus a great obstacle to your desires has been removed.
Do You Believe in Magic? Or Faith? Or The Universe? God?
The law of attraction is the magic coding for the universe to co-create on your behalf. The LOA processes, even if you don’t buy into it, improve your outlook. So, you have nothing to lose. At its best, your faith works in concert with the universe to unfold events that deliver the goods. Your faith is driving force behind the law of attraction, and your emotions inform you how aligned you are with your desired outcome. Alignment often inspires the right actions. Hold a feeling of expectancy and detach from the results of any particular event. It’s art. Stay with the system. Things start piling up.
“We become what we think about all day long.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Neurolinguistic programming is the ultimate life hack. Understand the science of charisma and persuasion can take you where you want to go.
To cover all the bases, I blend evidence-based coaching with the metaphysical (i.e. the law of attraction) and the teachings of timeless wisdom. We put together a strategy in which you turn into the person who would naturally succeed at what you are trying to pursue. Your routine makes progress inevitable. You become the new natural. The person who is a ‘natural’ for that you wish to achieve.
When you set a goal do you often give up?
Often our limitations are the ones we set for ourselves.
When you look in the mirror, do you believe in who is looking back?
To share your unique genius with the world, you just have to get out of your way.
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Ancient Wisdom, Evidence Based Methodology, and the Law of Attraction
The New Natural
From an evidence-based standpoint, neuroplasticity is concrete evidence that positive thinking works and that thoughts can change physical matter; in this case, narrowing the distance between synapses in the brain which creates a shorter path for positive thoughts to beat out negative ones reflexively. The brain adapts to repetitive thoughts by shortening the distance those thoughts have to travel and thus, those thoughts ‘win the race’ to being registered in our consciousness. Practicing positive thoughts will make them more likely to occur naturally. We can use our brain to change how we process the world, and that in turn changes how we react to it. To paraphrase John Wooden, we can make the most out of life by making the most out of how life turns out. Our brains are hardwired to perform at their best not when they are positive, not neutral or negative. For example, students primed for happiness before a test performed better. Happiness can transcend mood become work ethic. Happiness is not just the outcome of success; studies are showing it may be a prerequisite. Happy employees tend to outperform those who are not. Typically, we become successful because we are happy and thinking positively, not the other way around. As Wayne Dyer would say, happiness is the way, not the destination. Happiness is the joy we feel striving after our potential, and this is how happiness transcends mood and becomes a work ethic. It is not that we don’t need to change. Happiness is the realization that we can. Tiny habits, which are easy to do daily activities, are an excellent way to boost mood and set the right tone for the day. Foundational habits are always progressing you toward larger goals.
Who we hang out with can affect our mood. Negative people can bring us down because of a network of cells known as the Mirror Neuron System (MNS), and there is a simple technique to counter that. However, when we can choose who to be around, it is best to hang with people who are upbeat so that our MNS is positively affected.
“What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.” ~ Mark 11:24
“As far as I can tell, it’s just about letting the universe know what you want and working toward it while letting go of how it might come to pass.” ~ Jim Carrey
From the metaphysical standpoint, happiness reflects an active, robust vibration that will draw to itself experiences that justify a happy mood. Thinking and feeling positive specifically about that which you desire to have or experience will send a signal to the universe to unfold events to make that goal a reality.
When it comes to the law of attraction, the key is to feel it not just see it. Essentially: You imagine it. We co-plan for it. You become it.
“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.” ~William Arthur Ward
An example of wisdom is understanding that happiness is a useful tool but following a purpose driven life is offers far deeper satisfaction. Clearly, happiness has benefits. Even health benefits. Reducing negative emotions, in general, is good for your health. But, happiness is not the end all be all. It is unrealistic to be happy all the time. Without challenge, our life lacks meaning. Being engaged in what you discover to be meaningful is more valuable than simply being happy. The first of the noble truths is that the essence of life is suffering. Tribulation is the price of being. Your purpose, then, is to make life worth living. Being radically discontent with the BS that life sometimes provides can propel you to greater heights. Find what engages you. Shallow people are irritated by trivial matters (the Kardashians get stressed out over what shiny object to buy). Depth comes with the acceptance that bad things are a part of life and that acceptance is how we transcend bitterness. A grain of sand enters the oyster’s shell and is a source of constant irritation to the oyster. It is out of discomfort the oyster creates the pearl. Pursuing your life purpose will take you to greater heights and provide a deeper sense of satisfaction and is ultimately more fulfilling than trying to happy all the time.
Separate from societies expectations and spend a little time and effort determining what is your “why?”. What inspires you? We are more fulfilled by contributing to something greater than ourselves. This is what gets you up in the morning looking forward to the day. When you row someone to the other side you get there too.
We are told to follow our passion and success is sure to follow. What gets you excited and how would you like to share that with the world? Sometimes passion finds the person, and it often happens when we learn we are good at something and can profit from it. It is easier to be motivated when we enjoy what we are doing, and it is easier to enjoy doing something when we are good at it. So choose the passion you wish to pursue wisely. If you are passionate at tap dancing, but you are not that good, pick a better passion to capitalize on. Preferably something that is marketable.
For instance, when I was a kid I discovered early on I was funny. I was playing with my puppets, and my older brother and father were watching. They started laughing because I was using adult language while puppeteering a dinosaur and a cow. I liked how that made me feel, so I kept finding ways to make people laugh. You could say I became passionate about making people laugh because I was good at it and it provided satisfaction. I was very shy as a kid, so I used humor to overcome that. It seems every day I did something or said something funny. I liked making my classmates laugh. I still enjoy making people laugh. Hell, I make myself laugh. I’m laughing now (okay maybe not now). You see, sometimes passion finds you, and often it revolves around your strengths. Even though I’m not a comedian, humor has helped me in relationships, sales, management, coaching, and social settings. You may wish to follow a passion that has both a financial and personal payoff.
Studies show hope is a major predictor of success. The Law of Attraction process of imagining the goal as though it already happened has a dual purpose. One role is that visualizing the desired outcome creates a strong attraction for that reality to be drawn into existence. The other purpose is evidence-based. Imagining a positive outcome builds confidence and inspires hope. It is a known phenomenon that hope often foreshadows success. Visualization can improve one’s overall outlook. Properly adjusting your posture and how you breathe, while you visualize, lets your brain know that you’re confident and in control. And, according to the law of attraction, seeing that you already have the desire ‘attracts’ that desire. The more you feel that what the desire is inevitable, the stronger your attraction becomes. ‘Faith can move mountains.’ Visualization improves performance. Australian psychologist Alan Richardson showed that basketball players who imagined free throws improved almost as much as those who practiced free throws. A countless number of elite athletes use visualization. UFC star Conor McGregor told a reporter who he foresaw beating Jose Aldo. He predicted that fight would be over in 3o seconds. To put this in context, Aldo was considered the pound per pound best fighter in the UFC for years. At the post-fight press conference, the reporter read back to McGregor what he told him. Conor won the fight in a shocking 13 seconds. What Conor predicted happened. Conor uses visualization and, by the way, Connor is a believer is candid about his belief in the law of attraction. Visualization represents evidenced based and faith-based methodology.
Standford University conducted a major study determining that the ability to delay gratification is the greatest predictor of success. Delayed gratification is a learned trait in which we choose the task that contributes to a greater future success over the easy distraction that offers immediate good feelings. As a student, if you delay the gratification of watching television and get your homework done now, then you’ll learn more and get better grades. If you delay the impulse to buy new clothes when you are out shopping, you’ll have more money to pay your bills. If you delay the satisfaction of going out for drinks, you can get up earlier and get that gym workout in before going to work. Studies make one thing clear: if you want to succeed at something, at some point, you will need to find the ability to be disciplined and take action instead of becoming distracted and doing what’s easy. The good thing is that it is a skill that can be learned.
A system based approach defuses the need for pleasant distractions that often sabotage success; requires less discipline. With a system approach, you feel some level of ongoing satisfaction by completing daily and weekly goals. That will take the edge off of delayed gratification. I often find that people will give up hope when things don’t happen quickly enough for them to keep their confidence. Shifting some of their focus to daily goals offers some relief and satisfaction.
“If you fulfill your obligations everyday you don’t need to worry about the future.” ― Jordan B. Peterson, Ph. d. Psy
“Delaying gratification is a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with. It is the only decent way to live.” ― M. Scott Peck
As your new daily actions become habits, you become the person that inevitably succeeds. You have become the person who naturally has that which you desire in your life.
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The only thing you ever have is the now, so you might as well use it to your advantage. If you’re waiting to achieve something someday in the future, your approach is goal centered. If you focus more on doing something every day that contributes to the goal, it’s a system. Do the mental programming and metaphysics, but then you let it go and do things that create progress. It becomes second nature. It’s not that you temporarily have to ensure certain activities and deny others until, maybe, you attain your desire and finally feel satisfaction. Through developing the right habits the right way you become the person who naturally experiences the thing you desire; progress is inevitable. You become a “natural” at it.
“The good life is using your signature strengths every day to produce authentic happiness and abundant gratification.” ~ Dr. Martin Seligman
“Hope has proven to be a powerful predictor of success in every study we have done so far.” ~ Dr. Charles R. Snyder
“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
Do you know of people who always seems to have things go their way or those who, no matter what, never get down and always seem to find a way to come out ahead? It seems they are naturally inclined to be successful. “Oh, she’s a natural at it, no wonder she sells so many homes compared to me. She is so naturally charming that she doesn’t even have to be that skilled of a salesperson. I can’t make up for that. I’m nowhere near as charming.” Learn what your strengths are and lead with them. You can also learn how to be charismatic. I can help you with that.
“The reason we’re successful, darling? My overall charisma, of course.” ~ Freddie Mercury
Charisma played a large role in the success of Barack Obama. His Hope and Change platform didn’t have a lot of detail, and he abandoned a lot of his promises anyway — but people continued to like him. In fact, at the end of his second term, 70% of the population thought the country was going the wrong way while 60% approved of Obama. That’s a Reagan-sized number. Trump is a master persuader. Both Trump and Obama defeated the woman who was the favorite to win; Barack beat her in the primaries and Trump beat her in the general election. Trump essentially b-slapped the entire Republican Party and took functional control of FOX news. He rick-rolled CNN. Whatever your personal politics are, you need to know that charisma and persuasion can be learned.
“Nothing seems to get him down. He is the most resilient and persistent man I know.” You can learn how to deal with setbacks. In fact, that skill is one of the most predictive traits for success. Everyone has bad things happen to them it is how they bounce back that matters. If that is an issue for you, then let’s repair it. Once this all becomes habitual, it becomes a part of you. You have a whole new vibe going on. And, with your focus on the system rather than solely the goal, you experience satisfaction every time you complete a daily task. Your mood is critical to the law of attraction and to sticking with your action plan. As your new daily actions become habits, you become the person that inevitably succeeds. You become the person who naturally has that which you desire in their life. The Law of Attraction plays a significant role as does smart, evidence-based strategies. Now you should have a pretty good idea as to why this works. If you want a new normal click here to be coached by me.
“The secret of achievement is to hold a picture of a successful outcome in mind.” ~ Henry David Thoreau
“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” ~ Albert Einstein
“All that we are is a result of what we have thought.” ~ Buddha
“If I liked food and disliked exercise as much as a 400-pound guy, I’d be a 400-pound guy.” ― Scott Adams
Ellen Degeneres and Jim Carrey on Law of attraction…
“I didn’t worry even when I didn’t have any [money]. I was living on a can of soup every single day. And I would eat it out of the can because I didn’t have a kitchen. I would live paycheck to paycheck, but I never worried. I was living. I think that’s part of my mentality about money. My parents always worried about it, and we never had any. You put that energy out there, and it’s like, ‘Well then, we’re going to give you what you’re asking for.” ~ Ellen Degeneres
“I wrote myself a cheque for ten million dollars for acting services rendered, and I gave myself five years, or three years maybe, and I dated it Thanksgiving 1995, and I put it in my wallet, and I kept it there, and it deteriorated and deteriorated, but then just before Thanksgiving 1995 I found out that I was going to make ten million dollars on Dumb and Dumber.” ~ Jim Carrey
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- Do you feel like you can accomplish more?
- Do you NOT know when to quit? Winners quit fast, quit often, and quit without guilt. They don’t want to waste their time.
- Has your progress halted?
- Would you like to feel happy and fulfilled?
- Have you ever felt totally drained after spending time with certain people, whether at work or even in your personal life?
- A Law of Attraction Life Coach can provide the missing ingredient.
- Would you like to increase the number of high-quality relationships in your life (#1 indicator of happiness)?
- Are you a conscious creator or are you asleep at the wheel?
- Do you think your life could be more than what it is?
- Would you like to know how to apply Law of Attraction in a practical way to everyday life situations?
- Do you have unfulfilled dreams?
- Have you been practicing techniques from “The Secret,” but nothing you asked for has manifested? I can help. I facilitate your connection with source energy and the law of attraction, a force for healing, recovery, and remarkable growth. I help you remove the resistance to desires that many of us unknowingly create. I get your focus away from angst, and on the system, we create together using the law of attraction strategies and evidence-based tip, processes, and techniques.
- I can use Reiki to enhance the process.
- Contact me at Rob@Robertjbarnes.com or Click here.
To be bolder adopt the attitude that you will be okay no matter what. If a girl doesn’t want to date you, it’s better to know now rather than wait six months. Your character is more important than how you are perceived. Just focus on your character and try to be a good person and worry less about what others think. People will see this and be drawn to you because they wish they were more like you. If you cut lies out of your life, you enable yourself to speak with conviction. Your body will sing with your words. Even if you are the only one who knows you have been committing lies it still comes through your body language. I’m not just talking about lying at the moment you are speaking. You build a reputation with yourself that you sometimes lie. If you get rid of it all together, you will speak with greater conviction. You will come across as genuine because you know you are a truth teller. Rewiring your brain, supportive habits, mental flow, mindfulness, the Law of Attraction, comfortably delaying gratification, supportive action, visualization, confidence, charisma, authenticity, intuition, effective routines, and cultivating happiness are areas we can access through Life Energetics. You want to increase your productivity, happiness, and income by, say 400 to a 1000%? The Law of attraction with evidenced based strategies is how it starts. You see it. Feel it. Believe it (law of attraction) and then act on it with well thought and inspired strategies. You mentally and emotionally align with the desired outcome and then act like you can’t fail. The inner work inspires the external work. Your internal world projects to your outer world. The two work together.
The simple act of investing financially in coaching makes for better results. It is just a truth of human psychology. If you invest financially, you signify to yourself, and send a signal to the Universe, that you are serious about growth and progress. The result is that you follow through where you might have let it slide. So, let’s do this! Click here. It’s fun.
Quotes related to Law of Attraction
- “The course of the world are not predetermined by physical laws … the mind has the power to affect groups of atoms and even tamper with the odds of atomic behavior.” — Sir Author Stanley Eddington
- “Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.” – Muhammad Al
- “What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.” – Mark 11:24
- “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.” – Dr Martin Luther King Jr.
- “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” –Helen Keller
- “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?” — Marianne Williamson
- “Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.” — Samuel Johnson “I am still learning” – Michelangelo at aged 87
- “Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” – Albert Einstein
- “Discipline is success and the mother of salvation.” — Aeschylus, c. 500 BC
- “All that we are is a result of what we have thought.” – Buddha
- “A strong spirit transcends rules.” — Prince
- “one thinketh in his heart, so is he” — Prophet David
- “Great men are those who see that thoughts rule the world” — Emerson
- “The mind is its own place and in itself can make a heaven of hell or a hell of heaven.” — Milton, Paradise Lost
- “There is nothing either good or bad except that thinking makes it so.” — Shakespeare
- “You came into this leading-edge time space reality because you wanted to take a vibration into a thought, into an expectation, and all the way to to the manifestation. Because in the manifestation you feel the fullness, completeness, the affirmation, the confirmation, the manifestation of your creative abilities. We’re just a cooperative component as is everything else; you’re running the show.” -Abraham-Hicks
- “Habits of thinking need not be forever. One of the most significant findings in psychology in the last twenty years is that individuals choose the way they think.” ~ Dr. Martin Seligman
- “To accomplish great things we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan but also believe.” – Anatole France
- “Every single second is an opportunity to change your life because in any moment you can change the way you feel.” ~Rhonda Byrne
Robert coaches for specific purposes. He also has a course for those who wish to learn all about the law of attraction for their life and to, perhaps, become coaches themselves; you can be tutored and coached at the same time. Contact Robert for scheduling. This course in the law of attraction is one on one but if one wish to split the cost with a friend that is fine. Rob@RobertJBarnes.com