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The site will still have an abundance of free content. There will also be content that you access for a small fee. In that regard, you can receive coaching content on command. Aspects of many approaches can be blended. To be honest, my brain loves to bring different modalities together for an excellent synergistic effect. Evidenced based positive psychology, grit, passion, systems focused, goal focused, faith, charisma, confidence, meditation, visualization, how to delay gratification, mood management, increase creativity, intuition, et cetera…. I have read, studied, and paid big time for information. You can, in far less time and for far less money learn what I know and apply it. But if you prefer a solely Law of Attraction methodology, you can choose that.
For those with the means and desire, I am still available for one on one coaching or tutoring.
Life Energetics: The Transformation of Life Energy
“We become what we think about all day long.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Habits of thinking need not be forever. One of the most significant findings in psychology in the last twenty years is that individuals choose the way they think.” ~ Dr. Martin Seligman
“As far as I can tell, it’s just about letting the universe know what you want and working toward it while letting go of how it might come to pass.” ~ Jim Carrey
“Every single second is an opportunity to change your life because in any moment you can change the way you feel.” ~Rhonda Byrne
“To accomplish great things we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan but also believe.”
– Anatole France
“As your new daily actions become habits, you become the person that inevitably succeeds. You have become the person who naturally has that which you desire in their life.” ~ Robert J Barnes
The New Natural
On this page, I’ll give you an idea of how I go about this. I love metaphysics and I love being pragmatic. Nothing wrong with employing evidenced based techniques, as well. I fancy myself as someone who can combine all three. To be clear, I like the idea that the only barriers in life are the ones you accept. I prefer system approach to a lofty goal centered approach because it makes things easier and progress always happens with a good strategy — but, of course, a goal is still useful. Your desire is something where an effective focus will be applied to but most of the time the focus will be accomplishing the day to day stuff that leads to that desire. It is commonly said to find your passion. It is probably a good idea to find something you’re passionate about and turn it into a business. With that said, isn’t it interesting that we tend to get passionate about things that end up bringing us success even if we weren’t initially passionate about it. When I was a kid, I discovered early on I was funny. I had no idea. I was playing with my puppets and my brother and father were watching and they started laughing. I figured out what was making them laugh and so I kept doing it. I was very shy as a kid and to overcome shyness I used humor. I was successful. It gave me validation. It seems every day I did something or said something funny. I liked making my classmates laugh. I loved making my friends laugh. I still enjoy making people laugh. You see, sometimes passion finds you and often it revolves around your strengths. So, it would be pragmatic to choose something to manifest that allows you to contribute it, at least in part, by doing something you are good at.
How I go about this is that we create a strategy that would work even if you have no faith in the laws of the universe such as the Law of Attraction. The reason I do it this way is that I cannot control your level of faith so I do not want you to entirely rely on that. And the metaphysical and energetic tools work largely on your faith in them [If you are lacking in faith it will come.] Visualization of positive outcomes can reprogram your mind even to the point of making physical changes in your brain. So, on that level, visualization works no matter what. Studies show hope is a major predictor of success. Studies are evidence so we have a solid reason to believe this works. With that said, the visualization in my mind serves two purposes; improves the overall outlook and creates, on an energetic level, that which you desire. The more you feel that desire as an inevitable destiny the greater your attraction ie ability to pull into existence on an energetic level. Just being open to it helps. Your faith will build.
We use a system based approach that makes the issue of delayed gratification which hinders most goal orientated approaches less of an issue. Delayed gratification, is the ability to resist the temptation for an immediate reward in order to receive a larger or more enduring reward later. Success typically comes down to choosing discipline over the ease of distraction. As a student, if you delay the gratification of watching television and get your homework done now, then you’ll learn more and get better grades. If you delay the gratification of buying desserts and chips at the store, then you’ll eat healthier when you get home. If you delay the impulse to buy new clothes when you are out shopping, you’ll have more money to pay your bills and experience a more overall sense of ease. If you delay the satisfaction of going out for drinks you can get up earlier and get that gym workout in before going to work. Studies make one thing clear: if you want to succeed at something, at some point, you will need to find the ability to be disciplined and take action instead of becoming distracted and doing what’s easy. If your goal is to drop 25 pounds and you are constantly denying your gratification over and over, every day, that can become very draining. With a system approach, you feel some level of satisfaction by completing daily and weekly actions. That is where most of your focus will be. That will take the edge off of delayed gratification. And, while the system approach takes the edge off, you will learn how to train yourself to become better at delayed gratification. Delayed gratification is not a predetermined trait, but rather was impacted by the experiences and environment. I can help you with that. As your new daily actions become habits, you become the person that inevitably succeeds. You have become the person who naturally has that which you desire in their life.
“Delaying gratification is a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with. It is the only decent way to live.” ― M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth
So, what about the Law of Attraction principle of keeping your focus on the desire rather than your present circumstances? The idea is that you attract what you think and feel. The belief is that if you are concerned about your current situation and it takes your attention away from your desire then you will energetically draw in more of the same dreaded circumstance. There is some truth to that but I handle it differently. If you keep your focus on what you want and why you want it and imagine the feelings that go along with it then you will be predominantly attracting that better outcome. However, I find the problem with that is often people will give up hope and become stressed worrying if their goal will materialize if things don’t happen quickly enough for them to keep their confidence. Plus, if they are not focusing on their day to day life, how are they managing their current circumstances?
The only thing you ever have is the now, so you might as well use it to your advantage. If you’re waiting to achieve something someday in the future, your approach is goal centered. If you focus on doing something every day, it’s a system. That is why I prefer a system approach to a goal centered approach. In a system approach, you experience the satisfaction of completion in your everyday life rather than have satisfaction put on hold until you reach your goal. Sure, you can visualize what it is you desire each day. Do the mental programming and metaphysics. But then you let it go and do things that you have planned out that create progress. It becomes organic, second nature. It’s not that you temporarily have to endure certain activities and deny others until, maybe, you attain your desire and finally feel satisfaction. Which will dissipate and you’ll have to create a new goal to pursue. Through habits, you become the person who natural experiences the thing you desire. You become a “natural” at it. “Patrick, man, that guy always seems to land a plumb gig. His band is working a wedding for one of the richest families in town. Easy money! Then he’s playing three nights at The Showbox this upcoming long weekend. The guy has a knack for landing great gigs.” The truth is Patrick was chipping away every day to get to the point where he is landing the choice gigs.
“The good life is using your signature strengths every day to produce authentic happiness and abundant gratification.” ~ Dr. Martin Seligman
Lead with your strengths. For a simple example based on actual client experience, let’s say you wanted to increase your sense of well-being. After talking it out, you decide you want more friends in your life and you want to improve your social life. Given that you like to sing and you have evidence you’re a pretty good singer it seems going to a pub on karaoke night would be a good start. Plus, you are doing something you enjoy thus adding to your overall happiness. It is a fact that happy people are more attractive. Studies show that good relationships add to happiness. Thus, you could maintain or possibly add to your attractiveness and appeal. That would be a great cycle. So, if you get that going you should experience greater well-being. You decide that every Thursday you will go sing no matter what. I would want you to get your hopes up. It is a known phenomenon that hope often foreshadows success. To build confidence, you daydream daily about going to these events and experiencing the thrill of singing in front of an appreciative audience and the niceties of connecting with some new friendly people. Practice believing it. Metaphysically speaking, that is your point of attraction. Think of it like a daily prayer. Take 5 to 10 minutes each day and you will be vibrating confidence and be far more likely to attract what you want. Then let it go. Get back to the present. You still have a life to live. Practice smiling and saying hello to people when you’re at work. If you have a conversation make it about them. Everyone once in a while throw in an amusing anecdote or memorize a joke and share it. This is good practice for when you’re out. Now, does that mean every time you go out you will have an appreciative audience and meet friends? Not necessarily but does the plan still make sense? Yes. And it will work. Keep your faith and be consistent. That simple plan is pragmatic, metaphysical, and evidence-based. It’s also fun. Sometimes goals are a bit more complicated but you get the idea. And, of course, there is a lot more that can be done.
“Hope has proven to be a powerful predictor of success in every study we have done so far.” ~ Dr. Charles R. Snyder
“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
“What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.” ~ Mark 11:24
Do you know of people who always seems to have things go their way or those who, no matter what, never get down and always seem to find a way to come out ahead? It is like they are naturally inclined to be successful. “Oh, she’s a natural at it no wonder she sells so many homes. She is so naturally charming that she doesn’t even have to be that skilled of a salesperson. I can’t make up for that. I’m nowhere near as charming.” Then learn how to be charismatic. I can help you with that. “Nothing seems to get him down. He is the most resilient and persistent man I know.” You can learn how to deal with setbacks. In fact, that is one of the most predictive traits for success. Everyone has bad things happen to them it is how they bounce back that matters. Again, this is something I help you with. If that is an issue for you then let’s repair it in addition to leading with your strengths. Michael Jordan worked on his jump ball and his defense early in his career while he led his game with his ability to take the ball to the hoop. Soon, his jump ball became effective and his defense was the best in the league. He was the greatest. “This job requires me to know so much it’s overwhelming.” You can learn how to learn better; how to remember better. You see what I am getting at? And you can apply the daily metaphysics to creative a flow of energy to assist you. Once this all becomes habitual it becomes a part of you. You have a whole new vibe going on. And with your focus on the system rather than the goal you experience satisfaction every time you complete a daily task. If you are pre-occupied with the goal, you delay satisfaction. The idea is for you to makes some daily changes in which your new normal is becoming the “natural” for whatever it is trying to accomplish. Now you should have a pretty good idea as to why this works. If you want a new normal click here to be coached by me.
“The secret of achievement is to hold a picture of a successful outcome in mind.” ~ Henry David Thoreau
“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” ~ Albert Einstein
“All that we are is a result of what we have thought.” ~ Buddha
“The reason we’re successful, darling? My overall charisma, of course.” ~ Freddie Mercury
“If I liked food and disliked exercise as much as a 400-pound guy, I’d be a 400-pound guy.”
― Scott Adams
The Law of Attraction primes the importance of focusing on the desire. I use the desire to set your strategy and with the exception of visualization, your focus will be present-centered on routine actions and processes. By doing so, you will successfully detach from the angst of whether you will be successful (Law of Allowing). Routine activities become the habits that create success. You will be in a winning rhythm. Everything will fall into place. You will be happy and confident from your daily processes and scheduled activities. When these positive processes and activities become a habit, it no longer requires will power. It becomes a part of who you are. It will soon be a given that you have what it takes and the rest is just follow through (Law of Sufficiency).
Appreciate the importance of a good mood. It makes you a better creator because your vibration is better. Happy people tend to attract happy people and happy situations. And, it goes beyond personality. You are a molecular structure in a very high-speed of vibration. If you’re in a vibration it means you’re on a frequency. If you’re on a frequency you are attracting things to you based on that vibration. Misery loves company. If you are miserable you attract miserable people into your life. If you feel empowered you are uncomfortable in the presence of grumps and those who are weak. It is because your frequencies do not mesh. Sometimes, if you let it, your mood will lower as a result of those around you. It is good to learn how to manage your mood.
Try to surround yourself with the right people. Energy sensitive people need to surround themselves with people who support who they are, otherwise, they will carry the load all on their own. Some ‘friends’ tend to deride and others wholly accept and support.
What you are thinking you are creating. Negative thought patterns happen. You don’t have to resist or deny them. Attempting to may make things worse. Rather, you learn how to disengage them and let them pass through. Take what educates you and let it go too. Engage the positive thoughts. This is easier than it sounds once you know how. With that said, anger is necessarily a bad thing. It can be the most arousing and therapeutic emotion under certain circumstances. If anger lights a fire under and generates a more impassioned response to circumstances that you may have caused you to cower otherwise, then anger can quite literally begin a new life of freedom. Anger is saying. “I do not accept this. I will fight!” It’s powerful and like with fire, you need to respects its power. Keep it focused and don’t let it spill into other areas. Letting others know they have transgressed is better than pretending it didn’t happen and can actually prevent violence. However, anger can also have you pounding your head against a brick wall thinking you can run through it. The art is understanding when to use it wisely and when to let it go. You want to use it rather than it uses you. Learning how to disengage and see circumstances from that 30,000 ft perspective helps you decide if you wish to act on that anger or let it go.
It is also a good idea to include activities that add to your overall happiness and that energize you. This energy will be transferable to other areas of your life. I like to debate or discuss politics. Well, I must be putting out that vibe because It happens almost everytime I go out to the local watering hole. I often run into two or three people who are happy to oblige. It is simple and stimulating so I make sure I do it often. It has kinda turned into a regular Tuesday thing. If I can make some people laugh from an impersonation, even better. I make sure I stick to a certain amount of time and a limited number of drinks (like, say, two beers and two non-alcoholic large ice teas). In this case, that is key so I do not take away from my next day. It is a perfect way to add to my overall happiness. I will do energy-boosting activities no matter what – even if it seems selfish. Because, when I do these things for myself I have more to offer myself and others the rest of the time. Working out with weights also energizes me and I never do weights until I got nothing left. I do them and leave while I still feel great from the pump (which will make sure I show up the next day). If I can barely get out of bed the next day because I’m too stiff then that will take away from my day. It is true that there can be “too much of a good thing.” See, I am not just talking about things I like to do. I am talking about things that give me a mental and emotional energy boost. That helps with your mood and your creative juice. Maybe for you, that is yoga or a dance class; swimming, Judo, hiking, or Tai Chi. When we put together a plan to achieve what it is that you want, we keep it simple, regular and include some things that provide a stimulating joy. Maybe what you want is nothing specific and you just want to feel happier and experience greater vitality; no problem. Soon you will be doing this on your own. With greater understanding, some of the stuff, you’ll be making it up as you go along. Keep it fun. If this resonates with you then I’m your guy. Click here to contact me.
“I didn’t worry even when I didn’t have any [money]. I was living on a can of soup every single day. And I would eat it out of the can because I didn’t have a kitchen. I would live paycheck to paycheck, but I never worried. I was living. I think that’s part of my mentality about money. My parents always worried about it, and we never had any. You put that energy out there, and it’s like, ‘Well then, we’re going to give you what you’re asking for.” ~ Ellen Degeneres
“I wrote myself a cheque for ten million dollars for acting services rendered and I gave myself five years, or three years maybe, and I dated it thanksgiving 1995, and I put it in my wallet and I kept it there and it deteriorated and deteriorated, but then just before thanksgiving 1995 I found out that I was going to make ten million dollars on Dumb and Dumber.” ~ Jim Carrey
- Do you feel like you can accomplish more?
- Has your progress halted?
- Would you like to feel happy and fulfilled?
- Would you like to increase the number of high-quality relationships in your life (#1 indicator of happiness)?
- Are you a conscious creator or are you asleep at the wheel?
- Do you think your life could be more than what it is?
- Would you like to know how to apply LOA in a practical way to everyday life situations?
- Do you have unfulfilled dreams?
- Have you been practicing techniques from “The Secret,” but nothing you asked for has manifested? I can help. I facilitate your connection with source energy and the law of attraction, a force for healing, recovery, and remarkable growth. I help you remove the resistance to desires that many of us unknowingly create. I get your focus away from angst and on the system we create together.
- I can use reiki to enhance the process.
Rewiring your brain, supportive habits, mental flow, mindfulness, the Law of Attraction, comfortably delaying gratification, supportive action, visualization, confidence, charisma, authenticity, intuition, effective routines, and cultivating happiness are areas we can access through Life Energetics.
You want this then I’m your guy.
You want to increase your productivity, happiness, and income by, say 400 to a 1000% ? This is how it starts. You see it. Feel it. Believe it and then act on it. You mentally and emotionally align with the desired outcome and then act like you can’t fail. The inner work inspires the outer work. Your inner world projects to your outer world. The two work together.
The simple act of investing financially in coaching makes for better results. It is just a truth of human psychology. If you invest financially, you signify to yourself, and send a signal to the Universe, that you are serious about growth and progress.
The result is that you follow through where you might have let it slide. So, let’s do this!click here. It’s fun.
[Using Tantric energy/sex and the Law of Attraction together for couples manifesting together – coming soon…]
“Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.” – Muhammad Al
“What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.” – Mark 11:24
“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.” – Dr Martin Luther King Jr.
“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” –Helen Keller
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?” — Marianne Williamson
“Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.” — Samuel Johnson
“All that we are is a result of what we have thought.” – Buddha
“I am still learning” – Michelangelo at aged 87
“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” – Albert Einstein
“Discipline is success and the mother of salvation.” — Aeschylus, c. 500 BC
“All that we are is a result of what we have thought.” – Buddha
“A strong spirit transcends rules.” — Prince
“one thinketh in his heart, so is he” — Prophet David
“Great men are those who see that thoughts rule the world” — Emerson
The mind is its own place and in itself can make a heaven of hell or a hell of heaven.” — Milton, Paradise Lost
“There is nothing either good or bad except that thinking makes it so.” — Shakespeare
“You came into this leading-edge time space reality because you wanted to take a vibration into a thought, into an expectation, and all the way to to the manifestation.
Because in the manifestation you feel the fullness, completeness, the affirmation, the confirmation, the manifestation of your creative abilities.
We’re just a cooperative component as is everything else; you’re running the show.”
Robert coaches for specific purposes. He also has a course for those who wish to learn all about the law of attraction for their life and to, perhaps, become coaches themselves; you can be tutored and coached at the same time. Contact Robert for scheduling. This course is one on one but if one wish to split the cost with a friend that is fine. Rob@RobertJBarnes.com