Dear Reader,


To recognize the good, give thanks.

Gratitude, another word for giving thanks, is known as an “other-praising” emotion. Unlike joy, happiness, or other positive emotions, gratitude is always a function of being in relationship with something else. There’s you, and then there’s the person, place, or thing that you are grateful for. That’s why it’s known as “other-praising.” Giving thanks draws you out of yourself and into an appreciative connection.

Appreciation does not mean that all is pretty and perfect. Gratitude does not imply that life is sugar and spice and everything nice. Giving thanks is not about having the perfect situation—meaning that, when the stars align and you get what you want, then and only then will you be grateful. No. Absolutely not. Rather, giving thanks is about what’s going on inside your own head and heart, as you decide what to focus on.When you appreciate your life right now, in this very moment, in this very circumstance—no matter how grand or grief-stricken—you are transforming yourself.

May this time of harvest and thanksgiving be a way of choosing to see the good.

In deep appreciation of you,

Robert J Barnes

Quotes related to Law of Attraction

“The course of the world are not predetermined by physical laws … the mind has the power to affect groups of atoms and even tamper with the odds of atomic behavior.” — Sir Author Stanley Eddington


  • “Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.” – Muhammad Al
  • “What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.” – Mark 11:24
  • “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.” – Dr Martin Luther King Jr.
  • “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” –Helen Keller
  • “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?” — Marianne Williamson
  • “Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.” — Samuel Johnson
  • “Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” – Albert Einstein
  • “All that we are is a result of what we have thought.” – Buddha
  • “A strong spirit transcends rules.” — Prince
  • “one thinketh in his heart, so is he” — Prophet David
  • “Great men are those who see that thoughts rule the world” — Emerson
  • “The mind is its own place and in itself can make a heaven of hell or a hell of heaven.” — Milton, Paradise Lost
  • “There is nothing either good or bad except that thinking makes it so.” ~ Shakespeare
  • “You came into this leading-edge time space reality because you wanted to take a vibration into a thought, into an expectation, and all the way to to the manifestation. Because in the manifestation you feel the fullness, completeness, the affirmation, the confirmation, the manifestation of your creative abilities. We’re just a cooperative component as is everything else; you’re running the show.” -Abraham-Hicks
  • “Habits of thinking need not be forever. One of the most significant findings in psychology in the last twenty years is that individuals choose the way they think.” ~ Dr. Martin Seligman
  • “To accomplish great things we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan but also believe.” – Anatole France
  • “Every single second is an opportunity to change your life because in any moment you can change the way you feel.”   ~Rhonda Byrn
  • “Throw your dreams into space like a kite, and you do not know what it will bring back – a new life, a new friend, a new love, a new country.” ~Anaïs Nin
  • “Live out of your imagination, not your history.” ~Stephen Covey
  • “What power this is I cannot say. All that I know is that it exists.” ~Alexander Graham Bell
  • “Your mind is a powerful magnet that will attract to you the things you identify yourself with. If you have sad thoughts, you will attract tragedies. If you are a good man, you will attract the company of good people.” ~Alfredo Karras
  • “To accomplish great things we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan but also believe.” ~Anatole France


Bold Charisma


Even if they disagree with you, others will respect your honesty. Even when the truth is uncomfortable to hear, they will know you are speaking your truth. They will trust you. Your word counts.

To be bolder, adopt the attitude that you will be okay no matter what. If a girl doesn’t want to date you, it’s better to know now rather than wait six months. Your character is more important than how you are perceived. Just focus on your character and try to be a good person and worry less about what others think. People will see this and be drawn to you because they wish they were more like you. If you cut lies out of your life, you enable yourself to speak with conviction. Your body will sing with your words. Even if you are the only one who knows you have been committing lies it still comes through your body language. You build a reputation with yourself that you sometimes lie. If you get rid of it all together, you will speak with greater conviction. You will come across as genuine because you know you are a truth teller.


Rewiring your brain, supportive habits, mental flow, mindfulness, the Law of Attraction, comfortably delaying gratification, supportive action, visualization, confidence, charisma, authenticity, intuition, effective routines, and cultivating happiness are areas YOU can improve through COACHING. You want to increase your productivity, happiness, and income by, say 400 to a 1000%? The Law of attraction with evidenced-based strategies is how it starts. You see it. Feel it. Believe it (law of attraction) and then act on it with well thought and inspired strategies. You mentally and emotionally align with the desired outcome and then act like you can’t fail. The inner work inspires the external work. Your internal world projects to your outer world. The two work together.

Own it


When we hide from our story, our past defines us. When we take responsibility for our lives and everything in it, we can write the desired ending to our stories. We are creating all the time through our thoughts and actions. We have that gold mine between our ears. We were born to create. Therefore we need to be mindful of what we think and do so that we can progress towards the things that we want as opposed to those we do not. If our thoughts are right, the right actions will follow.

Think deliberately and act with a purpose. If something is worth doing, it’s worth doing right and doing well. Let your passion show even in mundane tasks. When we develop the right habits, willpower is less of an obstacle and when we use a system-based-focus, delaying gratification is easier than in a goal centered approach. And, finally, when we habitually use the law of attraction processes, inspiration and a positive attitude are necessarily prevalent. When you manage your thoughts and feelings, your predominant point of attraction is pulling in that which you desire and not something unwanted. When we find ourselves in a thought and action tailspin, we need to get back on track. We need to take command of what we create. To create on command, we need to keep our thoughts, feelings, and actions conducive to progress in the right direction.


Ask: What do you want? Why do I want it? And how would I feel once I had it? And be sure to really feel as you would if you had it already. Imagine you have it now. Give yourself reminders of what you want.


“Nothing seems to get him down. He is the most resilient and persistent man I know.”

You can learn how to deal with setbacks. In fact, that skill is one of the most predictive traits for success. Everyone has bad things happen to them it is how they bounce back that matters. If that is an issue for you, then let’s repair it. Once this all becomes habitual, it becomes a part of you. You have a whole new vibe going on. And, with your focus on the system rather than solely on the goal, you experience satisfaction every time you complete a daily task.  Your mood is critical to the law of attraction and to sticking with your action plan.  As your new daily actions become habits, you become the person that inevitably succeeds. You become the person who naturally has that which you desire in their life. The Law of Attraction plays a significant role as does smart, evidence-based strategies. Now you should have a pretty good idea as to why this works.

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charisma and persuasion

Charisma Do you know of people who always seem to have things go their way or those who, no matter what, never get down and always seem to find a way to come out ahead? It seems they are naturally inclined to be successful. “Oh, she’s a natural at it, no wonder she sells so many homes compared to me. She is so naturally charming that she doesn’t even have to be that skilled of a salesperson. I can’t make up for that. I’m nowhere near as charming.” Learn what your strengths are and lead with them. You can also learn how to be charismatic. I can help you with that.

“The reason we’re successful, darling? My overall charisma, of course.” ~ Freddie Mercury

Charisma played a large role in the success of Barack Obama. His Hope and Change platform didn’t have a lot of detail, and he abandoned a lot of his promises anyway — but people continued to like him. In fact, at the end of his second term, 70% of the population thought the country was going the wrong way while 60% approved of Obama. That’s a Reagan-sized number. Trump is a master persuader. Both Trump and Obama defeated the woman who was the favorite to win; Barack beat her in the primaries and Trump beat her in the general election. Trump essentially b-slapped the entire Republican Party and took functional control of FOX news. He rick-rolled CNN. Whatever your personal politics are, you need to know that charisma and persuasion are powerful tools and you can learn them.

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“Too often we forget how powerful we are as individuals to shape how other people see the world. Each one of us constantly broadcasts to other people – whether consciously or unconsciously – verbally or non-verbally – and those messages influence their brain.” ~ Michelle Gielan

“Charisma is a sparkle in people that money can’t buy. It’s an invisible energy with visible effects.” ~ Marianne Williamson


Studies show hope is a major predictor of success. The Law of Attraction process of imagining the goal as though it already happened has a dual purpose. One role is that visualizing the desired outcome creates a strong attraction for that reality to be drawn into existence. The other purpose is evidence-based. Imagining a positive outcome builds confidence and inspires hope. It is a known phenomenon that hope often foreshadows success. Visualization can improve one’s overall outlook. Properly adjusting your posture and how you breathe, while you visualize, lets your brain know that you’re confident and in control. And, according to the law of attraction, seeing that you already have the desire ‘attracts’ that desire. The more you feel that what the desire is inevitable, the stronger your attraction becomes. ‘Faith can move mountains.’ Visualization improves performance. Australian psychologist Alan Richardson showed that basketball players who imagined free throws improved almost as much as those who practiced free throws. A countless number of elite athletes use visualization. UFC star Conor McGregor told a reporter who he foresaw beating Jose Aldo. He predicted that fight would be over in 3o seconds. To put this in context, Aldo was considered the pound per pound best fighter in the UFC for years. At the post-fight press conference, the reporter read back to McGregor what he told him.  Conor won the fight in a shocking 13 seconds. What Conor predicted happened. Conor uses visualization and, by the way, Connor is a believer is candid about his belief in the law of attraction. Visualization represents evidenced based and faith-based methodology. 

Standford University conducted a major study determining that the ability to delay gratification is the greatest predictor of success. Delayed gratification is a learned trait in which we choose the task that contributes to a greater future success over the easy distraction that offers immediate good feelings. As a student, if you delay the gratification of watching television and get your homework done now, then you’ll learn more and get better grades. If you delay the impulse to buy new clothes when you are out shopping, you’ll have more money to pay your bills. If you delay the satisfaction of going out for drinks, you can get up earlier and get that gym workout in before going to work. Studies make one thing clear: if you want to succeed at something, at some point, you will need to find the ability to be disciplined and take action instead of becoming distracted and doing what’s easy. The good thing is that it is a skill that can be learned.

A system based approach defuses the need for pleasant distractions that often sabotage success; requires less discipline. With a system approach, you feel some level of ongoing satisfaction by completing daily and weekly goals. That will take the edge off of delayed gratification. I often find that people will give up hope when things don’t happen quickly enough for them to keep their confidence. Shifting some of their focus to daily goals offers some relief and satisfaction.

“If you fulfill your obligations everyday you don’t need to worry about the future.” ― Jordan B. Peterson, Ph. d. Psy

“Delaying gratification is a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with. It is the only decent way to live.”   ― M. Scott Peck

As your new daily actions become habits, you become the person that inevitably succeeds. You have become the person who naturally has that which you desire in your life.

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The only thing you ever have is the now, so you might as well use it to your advantage. If you’re waiting to achieve something someday in the future, your approach is ggoal-centered If you focus more on doing something every day that contributes to the goal, it’s a system. Do the mental programming and metaphysics, but then you let it go and do things that create progress. It becomes second nature. It’s not that you temporarily have to ensure certain activities and deny others until, maybe, you attain your desire and finally feel satisfaction. Through developing the right habits the right way you become the person who naturally experiences the thing you desire; progress is inevitable. You become a “natural” at it.

“The good life is using your signature strengths every day to produce authentic happiness and abundant gratification.” ~ Dr. Martin Seligman

“Hope has proven to be a powerful predictor of success in every study we have done so far.” ~ Dr. Charles R. Snyder

“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

“If I liked food and disliked exercise as much as a 400-pound guy, I’d be a 400-pound guy.” ― Scott Adams

Ellen Degeneres and Jim Carrey on Law of attraction…

“I didn’t worry even when I didn’t have any [money]. I was living on a can of soup every single day. And I would eat it out of the can because I didn’t have a kitchen. I would live paycheck to paycheck, but I never worried. I was living. I think that’s part of my mentality about money. My parents always worried about it, and we never had any. You put that energy out there, and it’s like, ‘Well then, we’re going to give you what you’re asking for.” ~ Ellen Degeneres

“I wrote myself a cheque for ten million dollars for acting services rendered, and I gave myself five years, or three years maybe, and I dated it Thanksgiving 1995, and I put it in my wallet, and I kept it there, and it deteriorated and deteriorated, but then just before Thanksgiving 1995 I found out that I was going to make ten million dollars on Dumb and Dumber.” ~ Jim Carrey

The New Natural

The New Natural

law of attraction coachFrom an evidence-based standpoint, neuroplasticity is concrete evidence that positive thinking works and that thoughts can change physical matter; in this case, narrowing the distance between synapses in the brain which creates a shorter path for positive thoughts to beat out negative ones reflexively. The brain adapts to repetitive thoughts by shortening the distance those thoughts have to travel and thus, those thoughts ‘win the race’ to being registered in our consciousness. Practicing positive thoughts will make them more likely to occur naturally. We can use our brain to change how we process the world, and that in turn changes how we react to it. To paraphrase John Wooden, we can make the most out of life by making the most out of how life turns out. Our brains are hardwired to perform at their best not when they are positive, not neutral or negative. For example, students primed for happiness before a test performed better. Happiness can transcend mood become work ethic. Happiness is not just the outcome of success; studies are showing it may be a prerequisite. Happy employees tend to outperform those who are not. Typically, we become successful because we are happy and thinking positively, not the other way around. As Wayne Dyer would say, happiness is the way, not the destination.  Happiness is the joy we feel striving after our potential, and this is how happiness transcends mood and becomes a work ethic. It is not that we don’t need to change. Happiness is the realization that we can. Tiny habits, which are easy to do daily activities, are an excellent way to boost mood and set the right tone for the day. Foundational habits are always progressing you toward larger goals.

Who we hang out with can affect our mood. Negative people can bring us down because of a network of cells known as the Mirror Neuron System (MNS), and there is a simple technique to counter that. However, when we can choose who to be around, it is best to hang with people who are upbeat so that our MNS is positively affected.

“What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.” ~ Mark 11:24

“As far as I can tell, it’s just about letting the universe know what you want and working toward it while letting go of how it might come to pass.” ~ Jim Carrey

From the metaphysical standpoint, happiness reflects an active, robust vibration that will draw to itself experiences that justify a happy mood. Thinking and feeling positive specifically about that which you desire to have or experience will send a signal to the universe to unfold events to make that goal a reality.

When it comes to the law of attraction, the key is to feel it not just see it. Essentially: You imagine it. We co-plan for it. You become it.

“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.”  ~William Arthur Ward

An example of wisdom is understanding that happiness is a useful tool but following a  purpose driven life is offers far deeper satisfaction. Clearly, happiness has benefits. Even health benefits. Reducing negative emotions, in general, is good for your health. But, happiness is not the end all be all. It is unrealistic to be happy all the time. Without challenge, our life lacks meaning. Being engaged in what you discover to be meaningful is more valuable than simply being happy. The first of the noble truths is that the essence of life is suffering.  Tribulation is the price of being. Your purpose, then, is to make life worth living. Being radically discontent with the BS that life sometimes provides can propel you to greater heights. Find what engages you. Shallow people are irritated by trivial matters (the Kardashians get stressed out over what shiny object to buy). Depth comes with the acceptance that bad things are a part of life and that acceptance is how we transcend bitterness. A grain of sand enters the oyster’s shell and is a source of constant irritation to the oyster. It is out of discomfort the oyster creates the pearl. Pursuing your life purpose will take you to greater heights and provide a deeper sense of satisfaction and is ultimately more fulfilling than trying to happy all the time.

Separate from societies expectations and spend a little time and effort determining what is your “why?”. What inspires you? We are more fulfilled by contributing to something greater than ourselves. This is what gets you up in the morning looking forward to the day. When you row someone to the other side you get there too.

We are told to follow our passion and success is sure to follow. What gets you excited and how would you like to share that with the world? Sometimes passion finds the person, and it often happens when we learn we are good at something and can profit from it. It is easier to be motivated when we enjoy what we are doing, and it is easier to enjoy doing something when we are good at it. So choose the passion you wish to pursue wisely. If you are passionate at tap dancing, but you are not that good, pick a better passion to capitalize on. Preferably something that is marketable. 

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For instance, when I was a kid I discovered early on I was funny. I was playing with my puppets, and my older brother and father were watching. They started laughing because I was using adult language while puppeteering a dinosaur and a cow. I liked how that made me feel, so I kept finding ways to make people laugh. You could say I became passionate about making people laugh because I was good at it and it provided satisfaction. I was very shy as a kid, so I used humor to overcome that. It seems every day I did something or said something funny. I liked making my classmates laugh. I still enjoy making people laugh. Hell, I make myself laugh. I’m laughing now (okay maybe not now). You see, sometimes passion finds you, and often it revolves around your strengths. Even though I’m not a comedian, humor has helped me in relationships, sales, management, coaching, and social settings. You may wish to follow a passion that has both a financial and personal payoff.